Wouldn’t it be convenient if you could tell just by looking at them if someone has had sex before? If you could automatically know how risky sex is with someone just by looking at him or her? But unfortunately, there’s no way of knowing for sure.

People used to think that all women bled the first time they had vaginal intercourse. So the belief was that you could know you were having sex with a virgin if she bled. Though some people still believe this, it isn’t true for all women. Some women don’t bleed the first time they have sexual intercourse. If a woman does bleed, sometimes it’s only a few drops of blood that can be overlooked.

We also know there are other ways of being sexually active aside from sexual intercourse between a man and a woman. So there really is no sure way of knowing if someone has been sexually active. We only have the person’s word.

This is why as awkward as it may be sometimes, it’s so important that you talk to your partner and ask questions about sexual history. It’s also important that you’re completely honest with your partner about your own sexual history. Often this means waiting, getting to know a person, being comfortable enough to talk about sex with them before you jump into a physical sexual relationship with them.

Finally, before beginning a sexual relationship, if either of you have been sexually active (oral, vaginal, anal and even genital to genital contact), it’s important that both of you are screened for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases or infections). Also, that you’re honest with your healthcare provider about your sexual history so that you can learn how to lower your risk for STDs.



If you’re sexually active or are considering becoming sexually active, we want you to have all the information you need to make the best and healthiest choices! We’d love to answer any questions you have about keeping yourself healthy and protected. All of our services are confidential and provided at no cost to you. Call us today to schedule an appointment.