My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me

Bonnie Tyler sang about it back in 1983 — Once upon a time I was falling in love, Now I’m only falling apart, There’s nothing I can do, Total eclipse of the heart.

Adele sang about it in 2010 – You had my heart inside of your hand, and you played it to the beat . . . We could have had it all.

There’s a reason songs about breaking up are so popular. It’s a common, timeless fact of life — not all relationships work out. Couples break up. And when someone breaks up with you, it’s normal to wonder where it all went wrong, to feel angry or hurt or embarrassed or broken. Or maybe even all of those emotions within a five-minute time span!

If your boyfriend broke up with you, maybe you’re binging on Netflix, eating ice cream straight from the carton, and listening to sad break-up songs. Or maybe you’ve started a kickboxing class to work out some of those emotions. Whatever your Getting-Over-A-Break-Up strategy is, we want to offer these 4 tips to you with the hope that they will help you.

1 - Allow yourself to feel all the feels. The only thing worse than feeling heartbroken or angry is heaping guilt or shame on top of the heartbreak and anger because you think you shouldn’t feel that emotion. A relationship has ended, and you’re allowed to feel whatever emotion you’re feeling. Sadness. Anger. Fear. Grief. Give yourself time to sit in those emotions and feel them. You might want to write it all down – writing in a pretty journal or pounding out your feelings on a computer keyboard may be healing. You probably want to vent to a trusted friend or family member. Talking or writing about your feelings can help you process. Give yourself permission to feel all the things.

2 - Take inventory. It’s normal to replay things in your mind and try to figure out where things went wrong. So go ahead – spend some time examining your actions and attitudes and behaviors. After all, that’s how you’re going to grow from this experience. Even though you probably didn’t do anything wrong, there are things you can learn about yourself that will help you in future relationships if you spend some time deconstructing the situation.

3 - But don’t get stuck there. Though it’s healthy to spend some time deconstructing the relationship, it’s not healthy to camp out there for too long. If you replay every conversation, every interaction, over and over in your mind, you’ll go crazy. And overthinking every detail of the relationship won’t change the outcome – you’ll still be broken up. So pause long enough to learn from the relationship, but don’t get stuck overanalyzing.

4 - Practice acceptance and gratitude. Even though you didn’t want to break up, this is where you find yourself. At some point, after you stew in the anger and grief for a little while, you’ll get to the point of acceptance. Choosing to accept the break-up and choosing to be thankful for the experience can help you become a better person. You can choose to be grateful for this guy and his role in your life. And you can even be grateful for your role in his life and the opportunity you had to help him grow.

It might not feel like it right now, but you will survive this break-up. It’ll be OK. And you’ll be able to move on. It might take a while to heal, but you’ll come through this a stronger person. True, this relationship didn’t work out, but it’s not because there’s anything wrong with you. It’s not because you aren’t worthy of this guy’s love. He just isn’t the right one — as trite as that might sound, it’s the truth.

You are worth the love and respect and admiration you want. You’re worth every bit of it. And when it’s the right person at the right time, it will work out.

In the meantime, maybe you can crank up the old Gloria Gaynor song while you dig into that pint of cookie dough ice cream or while you practice the latest kickbox moves — At first, I was afraid; I was petrified. Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side. But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong. And I grew strong. . . . I will survive. . . . I know I’m still alive. I’ve got my life to live, and I’ve got all my love to give. And I’ll survive.

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I Don’t Want Another Abortion

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Learning you’re unexpectedly pregnant can bring up complicated emotions, uncertainty, fear, or even exhaustion if you’ve faced this situation before. You may know that you don’t want another abortion, but still wonder what options exist for your future. At Collage, we provide free and confidential support so you can explore your choices in a compassionate environment. Whether you want to understand what parenting or adoption could look like or simply need someone to listen, you’re not alone. Schedule a free appointment today to learn how we can help. Exploring Parenting Parenting can feel like an enormous responsibility, especially if your finances, relationships, or housing situation are uncertain. Many women ask themselves: “Can I really do this on my own?” “Where will I find the help I need?” “What kind of future can I provide for my child?” These are real and valid questions. At Collage, we’ll help you identify the resources and support available in your community. From offering a warm, supportive presence as you explore this option to providing referrals for resources like housing or childcare support, we’ll ensure you’re not facing these challenges alone. Parenting can be both demanding and deeply rewarding. With encouragement, community connections, and the right information, you can feel more confident in providing a stable, nurturing environment for your child. Understanding Adoption If parenting doesn’t feel like the right fit for your current situation, adoption offers another path forward, one rooted in hope and love. You remain in control of the process, deciding how involved you wish to be in your child’s life. You can select from multiple adoption plans depending on your comfort level: Open adoption: Allows for ongoing communication and contact between you, your child, and the adoptive family. Semi-open adoption: Offers limited contact through a third party, maintaining privacy while keeping some connection. Closed adoption: Protects complete confidentiality with no exchange of identifying information. Financial support is available throughout the adoption process. You’ll never pay for legal or medical services related to adoption. Best of all, adoption agencies can help ensure your needs are met and your wishes are respected every step of the way. Adoption is not an easy decision, but for some women, it brings a sense of peace and purpose, knowing their child is loved and cared for in a stable environment. We can discuss this option with you and offer referrals to reputable agencies so you feel informed. Taking the Next Step Your situation is unique, and so is your decision. Whether you’re considering parenting or adoption or simply need time to process your feelings, Collage is here to provide information and encouragement. We’re available to answer questions, explain your options, and connect you with trusted community resources, all at no cost and in a confidential setting. Schedule your free appointment today to start finding clarity and peace of mind. FAQ: Is it normal to feel uncertain about my decision? Yes. Many women experience mixed emotions when facing an unexpected pregnancy. It’s okay to take time and talk through your options before deciding. What if I don’t think I can afford to parent? We can connect you with programs and community partners that provide material and emotional support, so you will feel more equipped to parent if you choose to. How does adoption work? You remain in control. You’ll choose the family and the level of contact and receive guidance from trusted professionals who handle the legal and practical aspects of the process. Are services at Collage really free? Yes. All services are completely free and confidential. Your privacy and comfort are our priority. Collage does not provide or refer for abortions; however, we do offer pre-abortion screening through our no-cost services.

What Can Guys Do with an Unexpected Pregnancy?

By Kirsten Berns • October 28, 2025

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How Will Abortion Affect Me Mentally?

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When considering abortion, it’s natural to wonder how the decision could affect your mental health. While every woman’s experience is different, being aware of possible emotional impacts and taking time to reflect on your circumstances can help you make an informed choice. At Collage, we provide free, confidential support so you don’t have to navigate these questions alone. Our staff is here to listen, answer your questions, and connect you with the resources you need as you process your options. Contact us to schedule your appointment today. What Research Suggests Research has shown that abortion can lead to a range of emotional responses. The American Psychological Association notes that some women experience grief, sadness, or even clinically significant issues like depression and anxiety afterward. Certain factors may make these outcomes more likely, such as: A history of mental health challenges Pressure from others to make a decision Lack of support or secrecy about the pregnancy Strong personal, cultural, or spiritual beliefs Wanting to continue the pregnancy but feeling unable to Recognizing how these factors may apply to your situation can help you prepare and seek support. You Have Other Options You are the one who will live with this decision, so it’s important not to rush. Confirming your pregnancy with a lab- quality test and ultrasound can provide clarity and help you understand your options, which include parenting and adoption. Speaking with a counselor or a healthcare professional can also give you space to process your feelings without judgment. We’re Here for You At Collage, we offer free pregnancy testing, limited ultrasounds, and confidential consultations so you can explore your options with accurate information and compassionate support. Schedule your free appointment today. You deserve the time, space, and care to make a confident decision with your mental health top of mind. Collage does not provide or refer for abortions; however, we do provide pre-abortion screenings.