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The Power of Self-Love: How to Overcome Insecurities and Build Healthy Relationships

Jun 16, 2023

Dealing with insecurities can be tricky, especially in a romantic relationship. It's completely normal to feel insecure from time to time, but it's important to process your emotions in a healthy way. Left unchecked, feelings of insecurity may lead to snooping, arguments, mistrust, and even controlling behavior.


Understand your triggers

Once you know what triggers these emotions in you, it will be easier to manage them. Listen to your gut and try to identify what people or situations make you feel insecure. Is it something related to your past, a certain environment, or do you notice these feelings most after scrolling social media? Alternatively, is there someone in your life who regularly leaves you feeling bad about yourself after spending time together?


Talk it out with your partner 

Try to be honest with your partner about how you're feeling. Share your concerns with them, but remember to do so in a non-accusatory way. Your partner may not realize that certain people or situations make you uncomfortable, or be unsure of how to help you. Communicating your needs can help you build trust and intimacy. You can try phrasing it this way:

“I feel ________ when _________, because ___________.”
“I could use some reassurance when _________.”
“Can you tell me more about _________?”


Practice self-care 

Take some time for yourself and engage in activities that bring you joy and boost your confidence. Whether it's exercise, a hobby, volunteering, or spending time with good friends, doing things you enjoy can help you feel more grounded and secure in who you are. Other forms of self-care may include taking a break from social media or journaling about the things you like about yourself and are proud of. You may even choose to part ways with a friend or partner who is overly critical of you or dismissive of your feelings.


Seek support if needed 

Remember, there's no shame in seeking support when you need it. If you're struggling to manage your emotions on your own, consider speaking to a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your feelings and develop coping strategies that work for you.


Dealing with insecurities in a romantic relationship can be challenging, but it's important to confront them. By understanding your triggers, communicating with your partner, practicing self-care, and seeking support, you can learn about yourself and build a more trusting relationship. Remember that you have a unique identity and that no one else can be you as well as you can!

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Let's have an honest talk about something crucial but often overlooked: understanding potential exposures to sexually transmitted diseases, sometimes referred to as infections (STD/STIs). Have you ever wondered, "How many people have I really been exposed to?" It's a valid question, especially when it comes to protecting your sexual health. You might assume that since you've only had sex with a few partners, you haven't been exposed much. But the reality is more complex than that. It's easy to underestimate how quickly potential exposures can add up. Even if you've only had a few partners, each person you're exposed to has a unique sexual history. The potential for indirect exposure from your partners can quickly grow. This is a sobering thought, but it highlights the importance of knowing your status and how to prevent exposure. Here’s a tool to learn the number of possible exposures you’ve had: https://collegestats.org/interactives/sexual-exposure-calculator . So, how can you use this information to protect yourself? Recognize that the most effective method of preventing STDs entirely is to refrain from sexual activity. Additionally, being in a mutually monogamous relationship, like marriage, will ensure you won’t contract an STD. Understand that communication is key. Statistics reveal that individuals aged 15 to 24 represent 50% of all new STD cases, stressing the importance of honest discussions with your partners about sexual history and making informed decisions regarding your sexual health. 1 Get tested. The CDC recommends getting tested annually if you aren’t in a mutually monogamous relationship, meaning you or your partner have had other partner(s). 2 Many STDs don't show symptoms right away, so you might not even know you're infected. Getting tested can help you detect infections early and get the treatment you need. At Collage, we offer testing and treatment for both chlamydia and gonorrhea at no cost to you. We want to do what we can to equip you to make informed decisions because together, we can reduce the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and live healthier lives.

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