Parties. They can be fun; you get to socialize with your friends and meet new ones. It can be a time to unwind from school or work. Overall, it’s a chance to have a good time and have some much-needed fun. But parties also come with risks, one of those being date rape. You see, date rape is more common than we might think, and it's not always perpetrated by strangers lurking in dark alleys. Studies have shown that only 8 percent of reported rape cases involve attacks by strangers. The sobering truth is that women are most at risk from individuals they know, trust, or have some form of relationship with, including partners, former partners, men they're dating, and acquaintances. 1

A disturbing aspect of date rape is the use of drugs, which are estimated to be involved in up to one in five reported cases. These substances, like Rohypnol, GHB, GBL, and ketamine, can be slipped into drinks without detection, leaving victims vulnerable and confused. It's terrifying to think that someone we might trust at a party or a restaurant could do such a thing, but it's crucial to be aware and proactive. 2

Gals: Empower Yourself with Knowledge and Awareness!

Let's be aware that people do actually use date rape drugs to take advantage of someone. In fact, females ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. To stay safe, never leave your drink unattended, and be cautious about accepting drinks from strangers. Trust your instincts, and if you feel something is off or start feeling weird, seek help immediately and get out of there! 3

Guys: Be Active Protectors!

You have the power to promote safety and respect at parties and social gatherings significantly. One of the most essential steps is watching out for the well-being of women, especially if you're in a group with friends. Be attentive to any situation that seems uncomfortable or potentially dangerous, and never hesitate to intervene or offer support if you see someone in need. 

It's also crucial to look out for yourselves since guys are not immune to the risks of date rape. While it is true that women are statistically more likely to experience sexual assault and date rape, men can also be victims of these crimes. 

Building a Community

If you see someone in a potentially dangerous situation, use your voice, offer help, and take action to ensure everyone's safety. When you do go out, consider bringing a trusty buddy with you when you go out. Remember to stick together and make a pact to leave if anyone feels uneasy or uncomfortable.

What Happens if There Is a Rape?

If you find yourself in the difficult and distressing situation of experiencing rape or sexual assault, it's essential to remember that you are not alone, and there are people who genuinely care about you and want to help. Take a deep breath and know that you have options, and you are in control of your narrative and what happens next.

Here are some important steps you can consider taking:

• Call a hotline: Reaching out to a local center can provide crucial support and information. Trained professionals can answer any questions and guide you through the process. Family Advocacy Network (Kearney) and Willow Rising (Grand Island) are great places. 
• Go to the hospital: The decision to go after such an experience is entirely up to you. If you choose to do so, they may offer a sexual assault forensic exam, commonly known as a rape kit. This process can collect evidence of the assault from your body, clothes, and personal belongings. 
• Call 911: If you are in immediate danger or need urgent assistance, do not hesitate to call 911. They can dispatch emergency help and ensure your safety.
• Focus on healing: Healing from such a traumatic experience is a deeply personal journey, and you have the right to prioritize your well-being. Taking time to process your emotions and seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals can be essential to the healing process.

Know that our team members at Collage are here for you. We offer a safe space for counselors or law enforcement to meet you in one place during this time.