New Mom? You’re Not Alone
June 17, 2020
Becoming a parent changes your life. Your priorities change. Your schedule changes. Your needs change. Maybe your friends are in the same stage of life and they completely get it. Or maybe you feel like you’re suddenly in this whole other world and you’re navigating it alone.
If you’re a new mom, you need a solid support network. Even if your family and friends are being as loving and supportive as they can be, it’s really helpful to have the support of other moms in a similar stage of life. Someone who is also fluent in the language of diaper brands and nursing bras. Someone who understands how exhausted you are.
So if you aren’t naturally already in a circle of other new moms, how can you build that support network? Here are some ideas:
- Online Groups & Message Boards – If you’re juggling work or school and parenting and don’t have a lot of time for face-to-face meet-ups (or if a worldwide pandemic is keeping you at home), this is a great way to virtually meet other moms in similar stages of life.
- Library StoryTime – Most local libraries have storytime for babies and moms and for preschoolers and moms. During these times, you’ll meet other moms and provide socialization for your little one.
- Music or Exercise Classes – Maybe you can find a baby/toddler/preschooler music class or a Mommy & Me exercise class or stroller aerobics. Some community rec centers offer these classes free for residents or for a very low price.
- MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) or other Mommy & Me Groups – You can search online for a local, organized group that is designed to provide you with the support of other new moms and maybe even offer the encouragement of more experienced moms who volunteer as mentors.
- La Leche League – If you’re breastfeeding, a local La Leche meeting can provide the help and friendship of other nursing moms.
- The Park – If you go to a neighborhood playground in the mid-morning, you’re likely to find some other moms of young children. Who knows – maybe your future mom-network is already standing around the baby swings!
- Ask Your Pediatrician – Your baby’s doctor probably knows a network of support for new moms and can hook you up.
This parenting thing is a huge adjustment and lots of hard work. You don’t have to do it alone. Finding a network of other moms to offer friendship, understanding, advice, and community is vital. When you get together, you may feel bleary-eyed and sleep-deprived, but at least you’ll all feel bleary-eyed and sleep-deprived together.
An unexpected pregnancy can leave you with more questions than answers. Especially when friends are urging you to choose abortion, you may be more confused than ever. While their advice might come from care or fear, it’s essential to remember this is your pregnancy, future, and choice. At Collage, we’re here to help you navigate this pressure and find a path that feels right for you so that you can feel informed and confident about your decision. Reach out to us today for no-cost support. Listen to Your Instincts Your friends might be an important part of your life, but your instincts matter most. If abortion doesn’t feel right, take a moment to ask: What’s holding me back? Maybe you’re picturing parenting your child or are curious about adoption. It’s also important to keep in mind that abortion is a serious procedure that your friends may not fully grasp the details of. Physical and emotional risks are involved, making it a more complex decision. Your hesitation is a sign to slow down and explore, not to rush into a choice you’re not ready for. Talk It Out If your friends keep pressing, try a gentle conversation. Let them know you understand they’re worried, you’re not sure about abortion yet. Ask what’s driving their advice. Maybe they’re scared about your finances or future. Maybe they’re simply telling you what they’d do in your situation, but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you. Understanding their side can ease tension without giving in. If they won’t respect your space, set boundaries and let them know you need time to think. You don’t owe them an immediate answer. Find Your Support Surround yourself with people who’ll lift you up, not pull you down. Write down your thoughts or talk to someone neutral. You can find a counselor or even online spaces where you can share your heart with those who won’t push one option over another. Even a trusted family member, a mentor, or a place like Collage can offer perspective without strings. You deserve to make this decision with clear facts and a steady heart, not under pressure. Help is Available If your friends are pushing abortion but you’re not ready, Collage is here with no-cost lab-quality pregnancy testing, limited obstetric ultrasounds, and pregnancy options education to help you decide what’s next. Our trained team offers confidential support to explore parenting, adoption, or abortion without pressure. Contact us for a no-cost appointment today. You deserve to choose your own path.
An unexpected pregnancy can flip your world upside down, and the urge to keep it under wraps might hit hard. Maybe you’re thinking abortion could erase the situation quietly.
What do you do when those closest to you start pushing you toward a decision that doesn’t feel right? Pressure from family or friends to choose abortion can leave you feeling stuck, unheard, and unsure of what to do next. How can you hold firm in your decision while dealing with well-meaning but overwhelming advice? Here’s what you can do to navigate this difficult situation with strength and resilience. Mental Health and Pressure Your decision should be your own—one that isn’t influenced by guilt or outside expectations. Studies show that women who feel pressured into abortion are more likely to experience guilt, anxiety, depression, and other negative mental health outcomes. Protecting your mental and emotional health starts with making a choice that aligns with what you truly want. Ways to Handle the Pressure Since you understand why this decision needs to be yours, here are some practical steps to help you handle outside pressure. Give Yourself Time You don’t have to decide right away. Take a moment, think through your feelings, and give yourself the gift to reflect without feeling rushed. You're less likely to regret a decision made on your terms. Learn About All Your Options Abortion isn’t your only choice. Parenting and adoption are also possibilities, each with its own forms of support and resources. Learning more about these options can help you make an informed decision you feel at peace with. Set Boundaries It can be tough to stand your ground when others have strong opinions about your decision. Clearly expressing your thoughts by setting boundaries can help you avoid unwanted pressure. Letting others know you need time and space to think can help shift the conversation away from their influence and back to what’s best for you. Advice from a Third Party Getting a different perspective on your situation can be helpful when seeking advice from someone outside your inner circle. This could be a professional counselor, an online support group, or a caring team member at Collage . You deserve people in your life who want to understand you without judgment. You Are Not Alone Even if those around you don’t fully understand, there are people who do. A supportive environment can make all the difference as you navigate this decision. Collage is here to walk with you during this time. We offer lab-quality pregnancy testing, limited OB ultrasounds, pregnancy options information, and more at no cost so you can get informed and have the support you need to move forward with certainty. Schedule a confidential appointment today.
